touching story, classic song

Artist: Bryan Adams
Song: Never Let Go

 Can you lay your life down, so a stranger can live?
Can you take what you need, but take less than you give?
Could you close every day, without the glory and fame?
Could you hold your head high, when no one knows your name?
That's how legends are made, at least that's what they say.

We say goodbye, but never let go.
We live, we die, cause you can't save every soul.
Gotta take every chance to, show that you're the kinda man who;
Will never look back, never look down,
and never let go.

Can you lose everything, you ever had planned?
Can you sit down again, and play another hand?
Could you risk everything, for the chance of being alone?
Under pressure find the grace, or would you come undone?
That's how legends are made, at least that's what they say?

We say goodbye, but never let go.
We live, we die, cause you can't save every soul.
Gotta take every chance to, show that you're the kinda man who;
Will never look back, never look down,
and never let go.

Never let go, Never let go, Never let go

Gotta take every chance to, show that you're the kinda man who;
Will never look back, never look down,
and never let go.

We say goodbye, but never let go.
We live, we die, 'but you can't save every soul.
Gotta take every chance to, show that you're the kinda man who;
Will never look back, never look down,
and never let go.

Will never look back, never look down,
and never let go.

Never let go, Never let go, Never let go

Lyrics of the soundtrack, http://www.stlyrics.com/t/theguardian.htm

Listen it on youtube, with movie clip, http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=KCjN1dlaMWY&feature=related

　　作者：(美)罗恩.克拉克：美国北卡罗来纳州人，1995年起执教。他曾在美国很多问题学校任教，现为纽约哈莱姆学校(哈莱姆为纽约著名黑人住宅区)教师。自从赢得了2001年度迪斯尼美国优秀教师奖以来，罗恩.克拉克一直在全美为各地的教师、家庭教师协会和学校董事会作报告。他的教学经验被多次录制成广播、电视节目在全美播出，受到广大教师、家长和孩子们的热烈欢迎。

　分享教育的55个细节

《教育的55个细节》——一位美国优秀教师的教学心得，作者：（美）罗恩。克拉克，汪颖译。

细节1:回答大人的问话要有礼貌.回答大人的问话时,要用文明礼貌用语,如:是的,妈妈;是的,阿姨……如果只是点头或用其他方式表达"是"或"不是",那是不可取的.

细节2:用眼睛和他人沟通。有人对你说话时，眼睛要注视着他；有人发表意见时，你的身体和脸要正对着他。

细节3：向表现出色的人表示祝贺。假如班里的某个孩子玩游戏赢了，或把某件事做得特别出色，我们都要祝贺他。鼓掌至少要持续三秒钟的时间，还要确保两个手掌充分接触，以便掌声足够响亮。

细节4：尊重其他同学的评论、观点和想法。在讨论问题的时候，要对其他同学的评论、观点和想法表示尊重。要尽可能地这样说：“我同意某某的观点，同时我也感到……”“我不同意某某的看法，尽管她抓住了问题的核心，但是我觉得……”或者“我认为某某的观察真是太精彩了，它让我意识到……”

细节 5：无论成功还是失败，都不能挂在脸上。假如你赢了，或把事情做得挺漂亮，千万别吹牛；如果输了，也别把不高兴写在脸上。相反，你应该说：“这场比赛真过瘾，我还想接着跟你玩儿。”或说：“赛得不错！”要不干脆什么都别说。若表现出不愉快的情绪或挖苦别人，比如说：“你打得实在不怎么样，我根本就没好好和你比。”这样的话只能显示出你的虚弱。

细节6：与人交谈时，别人问你一个问题，你一定也要回问对方。与人交谈的过程中，如果别人问你一个问题，你就应该回问对方一个问题。如果有人问：“周末过得怎么样？”你应该先回答，然后再回问一句。下面做个示范。问：“周末过得怎么样？”答：“不错！我们全家逛商场去了。你怎么样？周末过得好吗？”这是个礼貌问题，你要向别人表示，像他们对你感兴趣一样，你也对他们感兴趣。

细节7：打喷嚏或咳嗽时要用手捂住嘴巴，然后说“对不起”。咳嗽、打喷嚏或打嗝时，应当转过头去，并用整只手捂住嘴巴（只用半只手可不行）然后应该说句“对不起”。

细节8：不要做出无礼的表现。不要撇嘴，嘴里发出“嗤”的声音，不要翻白眼，也不要表现出任何不尊重别人的态度。

细节9：接到别人递的东西，要说：“谢谢！”。

细节10：收到你不喜欢的礼物后，不要对礼物本身或送礼人表现出不满。接受别人的礼物时，永远不要对这件礼物说三道四，或暗示你不喜欢，以至于让送你礼物的人难堪。

细节11：顺手做些善意的举动，给别人以特别的惊喜。每个月至少一次，创造性地为别人做一件令人惊喜的、善意而又慷慨的事情。

细节12：给你的同学判卷，要公正。允许学生们相互之间判卷。给其他同学的试卷判分时，如果比实际分数高了或者低了，高出或低出的分数将在你本人的试卷中扣除，你只能在错误的地方打个叉子，并写上错题的数量。

细节13：全班同学一起朗读的时候，要全神贯注。如果这时我叫你单独朗读，你应该知道我们读到什么地方了，而且必须立刻接上。

细节14：书面回答问题时，句子要表达完整。举个例子，如果问：“俄国的首都在哪里？”，书面的回答应该是：“俄国的首都是莫斯科。”同样，为表示对他人的尊重，人在回答别人问话时，也要用完整的句子，这点很重要。举个例子，如果有人问你：“你好吗？”你不能简单地回答：“很好。”而应该说：“我挺好的，谢谢您。你怎么样？”

细节15：不能主动索要奖品。一个学年结束的时候，我会给那些品行好，学习好或其他任何方面值得奖励的孩子发奖品。如果有谁主动跟我要奖品，对不起，我是不会给的。我会特别不客气地问他：“你跟我要奖品的这个行为是一种好行为吗？”你表现好，做任何事都尽了最大的努力，那是因为你想让自己变得更好，而不只是为了得到一件奖品。我经常给那些在单元测验中得了100分的学生发奖品。如果某个学生得了100分跑过来问我能否得到奖品，我从来都不会给他。

细节16：每天都要完成全部的家庭作业。谁都不能例外。

细节17：上课时，从一种科目换到另一种科目，换学习用具等各种动作要迅速、安静和有秩序。我们在完成换书、换作业本和所需的其他所有用具时，动作应该连贯、不间断，要尽可能地快。完成所有动作所需要的时间在10秒之内较为合适，而我们的目标是力争在7秒之内全部完成。

细节18：你要尽最大的努力，让自己尽可能地有条理。

细节19：对布置的家庭作业不允许抱怨或发牢骚。如果谁这样做了，他就必须做两倍的作业。

细节20：代课老师在的时候，班里的所有纪律照样发挥作用。当你和代课老师在一起的时候，要跟和我在一起时一样，遵守同样的规章制度。（我知道做到这一点很难，但的确很重要。）

细节21：遵守课堂纪律。我们必须遵守教室的纪律，我们要有组织，有效率地完成任务。为了做到这一点，必须遵守如下规则：1、未经许可，不得离开座位，除非你病了，才可以马上离开。2、不得说话，除非：A，你举手，我叫了你；B，我问你问题，你要回答；C，休息或午餐时间；D，我特批的时候，例如小组活动需要沟通。

细节22：上课时，你不能为了喝水离开教室，你可以带水在教室里喝。上课时，你可以带瓶水放在桌子上，我讲课的时候，你不要问我能不能喝水，你甚至可以把食物拿到桌子上吃，只要不影响别人，也不要让我听到你吃东西的声音就行。

细节23：若知道其他老师的名字，遇到他们时要称呼他们的名字并打招呼。要迅速记住全校老师的名字，在路上碰面时要主动问候他们，说些诸如“早上好，格雷厄姆太太”或者“下午好，奥尔蒂斯女士，你的衣服真漂亮！”之类的话。（注意：你和全班同学在一起排队时，不能和老师讲话，因为不许讲话的纪律依旧生效。在你刚进学校或要离开学校的时候遇见老师，都应该和他们打招呼。）

细节24：保持个人和浴室卫生，让细菌无处藏身。上完厕所以后应该立即冲马桶和洗手。上公共厕所的时候，洗手前要先拿一张纸巾。洗完手以后，要用这张纸关水龙头和按出纸机抽取另一张纸来擦干手。（或用这张纸按干手机的按钮。）你要做的最后一件事就是用你干净的手去拿你想拿的东西，而其他的人都是用脏手去摸的。

细节25：对来访者要表示欢迎，要让他们感受到你的真诚。如果有人要参观我们教室，我会派两名学生在教学楼前等候，并举着一个欢迎牌。当我们的参观者到来时，接待者要和他们握手，向他们作自我介绍，并致欢迎词。然后，在带他们进教室之前，先领他们简单参观一下校园。

细节26：在餐厅就餐时，不要让身边的座位空着。有人想坐，就让他坐，不要刻意去排斥什么人。我们是一个大家庭，应该善意地对待和尊重别人。

细节27：不许盯着正在受批评的同学看。在学校里，如果某位老师在对一名学生说话，或在教训他，不要盯着这名学生看。假如你处在麻烦中，或者遭到了批评，你一定也不想让其他人看着你，所以，在这种情况下，切勿盯着别人。如果我正对你说话，这时有其他同学看你，你也不要生气或对别人大惊小怪的，我自会处理的。

细节28：家庭作业有任何问题时，打电话给老师，如果老师不在，要留言。如果你对家庭作业有不明白的地方，可以给我打电话。如果电话没人接，你可以用下方式给我留言：“您好，克拉克先生，我是某某，我在家庭作业中的什么方面有疑问，请您在几点钟之前给我回电话。谢谢！”这个留言说一遍就行了，不用再打第二遍。

细节29：吃饭时保持良好的礼仪。你必须遵守，我管它们叫作“礼仪ABC”。（详见《教育的55个细节》之P102-106。）

细节30：无论在快餐店或其他任何地方吃饭，餐后都要对你的垃圾负责。用餐完毕后，我们要自己把应该清理的东西收拾干净，包括擦桌子，检查就餐区域的地板上有无遗漏的垃圾等。很重要的一点是：要确保你无论身在何处，都不能随手丢垃圾。

细节31：住旅馆时，要为给你打扫房间的服务生留下小费。一般情况下，每晚2——3美元比较合适，有时还要根据房费的价格而定。

细节32：坐公共汽车时，脸要朝着前方。我们不应该左顾右盼地与其他人说话，也不能往窗外扔任何东西，或离开自己的座位。当我们下车时，任何时候都要记得感谢司机，并祝他一天开心。

细节33：首次与他人见面时，要与对方握手，并重复他们的名字。当我们进行实地考察的时候会遇到很多人，如果我把你介绍给他们，你一定要保证记住他们的名字。之后，当我们离开的时候，你要握着他们的手感谢他们，并且一定要称呼他们的名字。

细节34：吃饭的时候，只取你应得的那一份。食物端上来，无论是在自助餐厅，还是在班上，永远不要取走比你实际所需的分量多的食物。你不要贪多，因为这样不仅会造成浪遇，而且如果你不给别人留够了的话，对别人也是一种不尊重。

细节35：有人掉了东西，如果你离得近，要帮助他或她捡起来。也许他们距离物品比你近，但出于礼貌，你还是要做出弯腰去捡的姿势。

细节36：进出时，为别人扶住门。如果你开门进去或出来时有人跟在你后面，你应该扶住门。如果开门的时候需要拉的话，你就拉开门，自己站在一边，让别人先过去，然后你再走过去；如果开门的时候需要推，你就在自己走过去后用手扶住门，别松开。

细节37：如果有人不小心碰到了你，尽管不是你的错，你也应该说“对不起”。

细节38：外出活动，进入公共场所时要保持安静。当我们集体外出，进入一座建筑物时，不能说话，甚至要安静到让人注意不到我们的存在。这同样适用于通常人们联欢会的任何公共场所，包括电影院，教堂，剧院等。

细节39：外出活动，进入公共场所时要保持安静。当我们外出考察的时候，就你参观的地方找些值得赞美的东西称赞一番，不失为一个好主意。举个例子，如果你去拜访一家人，你告诉他们，你觉得他们家的窗帘特别漂亮，这会是一个很友好的开场白．当有客人来访的时候，主人通常会感到有点紧张，你要想办法让他们放松下来．同样　，如果我们参观一些地方，例如博物馆或剧院，你最好就建筑物如何美丽议论一番，也可以告诉导游，你认为这里的设备好极了！

细节40：集会期间不要说话，也不得和你的朋友打招呼．不能四处张望，也不能试图吸引其他班同学的注意．我们必须齐心协力给大家留下一个印象——我们是个集体，我们步调一致．

细节41：在家里接电话时，必须做到礼貌得体．

细节42：外出旅行返回时，要和每一个旅伴握手并致谢．你要感谢我们花时间带你出来，你还要让我们知道，你对能有这个出行机会感到很高兴．我不在意你是否感谢我，我关心的是你要学会在别人给你提供额外帮助的时候，你能恰当地表示感谢．

细节43：在自动扶梯上，要站在右侧，从左侧走动．我们站在右侧，把左侧留出来让给那些有急事，要赶着上下的人．在进入电梯＼地铁或地下通道前，要礼让出去的人先行．

细节44：站着排队时，要将两臂放在身体两侧，移动时要安静．排队的时候要随着队列移动，距离你前面的人两三步远，手臂放在身体两侧，脸一直要冲着前方，不能说话．

细节45：排队时永远不能加塞儿．如果有人插到了你前面，一个字也不要说，随他去，只要告诉我一声，我就会来处理的．如果你非要和加塞儿的人理论，你也一样会有麻烦的，这不值得你这样做．同学之间解决任何纠纷，都应该在自己着手处理之前，先带着问题来找我．

细节46：在电影院里看电影期间，不得说话．我不在乎电影好不好看，也不在乎你想对你旁边的人说些什么，总之不能说话，耳语也不行．你也不能把脚搭在你前边的椅子上．在看电影的时候，如果你想吃东西，要尽可能安静地吃．如果你事先买好了零食准备在看电影的时候吃，要在电影开始前找开包装袋．在电影放映过程中，打开袋子会发出声音，从而影响别人．此外，在电影放映期间开着移动电话或寻呼机，也是很不礼貌的行为．

细节47：不能把夹心饼干带进学校．

细节48：如果有谁欺负你，告诉老师．如果这所学校里的学生有谁惹你心烦，一定要让我知道．我是你们的老师，我在这里照顾你们，保护你们，我不允许这所学校里的任何人欺负你们，或者让你们感到不愉快．但我希望你们不要自己处理这些事情，让我来和这些捣蛋鬼打交道．

细节49：坚持你的信念．如果你强烈地感到你应该做什么，就尽管去做．

细节50：用正面、积极和欣赏的态度生活．保持乐观的态度，尽情享受生活．有些事情本不值得大惊小怪．学会为每件事作好准备，去追求生命中的美好．

细节51：既然想做一件事，就只管去做，不要后悔．永远不要让恐惧、怀疑或别的什么困难阴挡你前进的步伐．你想得到什么，就要全身投入地努力去获得；你想做一件事情，那就动手去做，不达目的决不罢休；你想成为一个什么样的人，就要创造一切条件去实现．

细节52：从错误中汲取教训，然后继续前行．犯错误是人之常情．

细节53：不管情况怎样，永远保持诚实．即使你做错了事情，也最好向我承认，因为我欣赏这种态度．由于你的诚实，我会忘记对你进行任何惩罚．

细节54：把握现在．今天只有一次，所以不要轻易浪费．生命由很多特殊的瞬间构成，而在这些瞬间里所发生的事情，是由于人们将各种禁忌抛在脑后，付诸行动，抓住机会而成就的．

细节55：尽你所能成为最出色的人．让你的一生中，永远有七件事情相伴：笑、家庭、历险、美食、挑战、变化和对知识的追求．有了这些元素，你将快乐地成长，懂得享受生活，并且最终会为自己而感到自豪！

“The Essential 55”

by Ron Clark

Rule 1

When responding to any adult, you must answer by saying

“Yes ma’am” or “No sir.” Just nodding your head or saying

any other form of yes or no is not acceptable.

Rule 2

Make eye contact. When someone is speaking, keep your

eyes on him or her at all times. If someone makes a

comment, turn and face that person.

Rule 3

If someone in the class wins a game or does something well,

we will congratulate that person. Claps should be at least

three seconds in length with the full part of both hands

meeting in a manner that will give the appropriate clap

volume.

Rule 4

During discussions, respect other students’ comments,

opinions, and ideas. When possible, make statements like, “I

agree with John, and I also feel that…” or “I disagree with

Sarah. She made a good point I feel that…” or “I think Victor

made an excellent observation, and it made me realize…”

Rule 5

If you win or do well at something, do not brag. If you lose, do

not show anger. Instead, say something like, “I really enjoyed

the competition, and I look forward to playing you again,” or

“good game,” or don’t say anything at all. To show anger or

sarcasm, such as “I wasn’t playing hard anyway” or “You

really aren’t that good,” shows weakness.

Rule 6

If you are asked a question in conversation, you should ask a

question in return.

Me: “Did you have a nice weekend?”

You: “Yes, I had a great time. My family and I went shopping.

What about you? Did you have a nice weekend?”

It is only polite to show others that you are just as interested in

them as they are in you.

Rule 7

“When you cough or sneeze or burp, it is appropriate to turn

your head away from others and cover your mouth with the

full part of your hand. Using a fist is not acceptable.

Afterward, you should say, “Excuse me.”

Rule 8

“Do not smack your lips, tsk, roll your eyes, or show

disrespect with gestures.”

Rule 9

“Always say thank you when I give you something. If you do

not say it within 3 seconds after receiving the item, I will take it

back. There is no excuse for not showing appreciation.”

Rule 10

“When you are given something from someone, never insult

that person by making negative comments about the gift or by

insinuating that it wasn’t appreciated”

Rule 11

“Surprise others by performing random acts of kindness. Go

our of your way to do something surprisingly kind and

generous for someone at least once a month.”

Rule 12

“Occasionally we may grade each other’s papers as a group.

When grading other students’ papers, if you give someone an

incorrect grade, whether it is higher or lower than they

deserve, the amount the grade differs from the actual grade

will be deducted from your paper. The only marks you are

allowed to make on others’ papers are an “X” and the number

they got incorrect.”

Rule 13

“When we read together in class, you must follow along. If I

call on you to read, you must know exactly where we are and

begin to read immediately”

Rule 14

“Answer all questions with a complete sentence. For

example, if the question asks, “What is the capital of Russia?”

you should respond by writing, “The capital of Russia is

Moscow.” Also, in conversation with others, it is important to

use complete sentences out of respect for the person’s

question. For example, if a person asks, “How are you?”

instead of just responding by saying, “Fine,” you should say,

“I’m doing fine, thank you. How about yourself?”

Rule 15

“At times throughout the year, I will give rewards for good

behavior, academic performances and other acts worthy of

praise. If you ever ask me for a reward, however, it will not be

given. It is rude to ask if you are getting something for good

behavior. You should be good and try your best because you

are trying to better yourself, not because you are anticipating

a reward. I usually give some sort of reward to everyone who

scores 100 on unit tests. If you make 100 and ask if you are

getting something, no one who made 100 will be given

anything.”

Rule 16

“Homework will be turned in each day for each subject by

every student with no exceptions.”

Rule 17

“When we are in transition from one subject to the other, the

change will be swift, quiet and orderly. We should be

consistently able to turn from one book to another, complete

with all homework and necessary materials, as quickly as

possible. The opportune amount of time to spend in transition

should be less than ten seconds, and we will work toward a

goal of seven seconds.”

Rule 18

“You will make every effort to be as organized as possible.”

Rule 19

“When I assign homework, there is to be no moaning or

complaining. This will result in a doubled assignment.”

Rule 20

“While you are with a substitute teacher, you will obey the

same rules that you follow when I am with you. (I know this is

hard, but it is important.)”

Rule 21

“We will follow certain classroom protocols. We will be

organized, efficient, and on task. In order to do so, we will

follow these rules:

1. Do not get out of your seat without permission. Exception:

If you are sick, leave immediately.

2. Do not speak unless:

You raise your hand, and I call on you.

I ask you a question and you are responding.

It is a recess of lunch.

I instruct you otherwise (for example, during group work).”

Rule 22

“You may bring a bottle of water and leave it on your desk. Do

not ask me if you can get water while I am teaching a lesson.

You can even have food at your desk as long as others don’t

see it and I don’t hear you eat it.”

Rule 23

"Quickly learn the name of other teachers in the

school and greet them by saying things like, "Good

morning Mrs. Graham," or "Good afternoon Ms. Ortiz.

That is a very pretty dress." (Note: If you are in

line with the rest of class, you are not allowed to

speak to the teachers at that time because the

no-talking rule is in effect. You should speak to

other teachers if you are entering or leaving the

school, on recess, on an errand, or changing classes.)

Rule 24

"Flush the toilet and wash your hands after using the rest

room. When in a public rest room, get a paper towel before

washing your hands. After washing your hands, use the paper

towel to turn off the faucets and to press the dispenser to get

another paper towel to dry your hands. (Or use the towel to

press the button to start the dryer.) The last thing you want to

do is touch areas with clean hands that others have touched

with dirty hands."

Rule 25

"We will often have visitors to our school. If someone is

coming to visit our class, I will send two students to the front

door of the building. You will have a sign welcoming the

person. When our visitor arrives, you will shake hands, tell

him or her who you are, and welcome the person to our

school. You will then take the visitor on a small tour of the

building before bringing him or her to the classroom."

Rule 26

“Do not save seats in the lunchroom. If someone wants to sit

down, let him or her. Do not try to exclude anyone. We are a

family, and we must treat one another with respect and

kindness.”

Rule 27

“If I or any other teacher in school is speaking to or

disciplining a student, do not look at that student. You

wouldn’t want others looking at you if you were in trouble or

being reprimanded, so don’t look at others in that situation. If

you are the student I am talking to, do not get angry or fuss at

students who are looking at you. Let me know and I will

handle the situation.”

Rule 28

"If you have a question about your homework, you may call

me. If I am not there to answer the phone, please leave a

message in the following manner: "Hi, Mr. Clark, this is

_______________. I need help with the _______________

homework. You can call me back until ___:00. Thank you."

There is no need to leave this message fourteen times."

Rule 29

“There are several manners dealing with food that you must

follow: I call these my ABC’s of Etiquette.

A. When you first sit down for a meal, immediately place you

napkin in your lap. If you silverware is wrapped in a napkin,

unwrap it as soon as you sit down and place the napkin in

your lap.

B. When you are finished eating, place you napkin on the table

to the left of your plate. Place it loosely beside the plate. Don’t

crumple it, because you don’t want to seem untidy. Don’t fold

it too neatly, because you don’t want the restaurant to think

you assume they are going to use it again. Never leave your

napkin on your chair. This implies that the napkin is too dirty

to be left on the table. Also, in some cultures, leaving the

napkin on the chair is known as a way to say that you don’t

intend to return to the restaurant again.

C. Never place you elbows on the table.

D. Use one hand to eat, unless you are cutting or buttering food.

Never have your fork in one hand and a glass in the other.

E. Do not lick your fingers. There is a napkin provided for the

purpose of cleaning your fingers. There is no need to lick

yourself clean.

F. Do not smack you lips or chew noisily.

G. Do not chew with your mouth open.

H. Do not talk with your mouth full. Sometimes people will place

a hand over their mouth and talk anyway. Don’t do that. Wait

until you have swallowed your food to speak.

I. If something is caught in your teeth, don’t go in after it; wait

until you are in the rest room to remove it.

J. D not slurp.

K. Do not play with your food.

L. If you drop your fork, napkin, or anything else on the floor, DO

NOT pick it up. It is very rude and unsanitary to place

something on the table that has been on the floor. If you pick

up something that has dropped and hand it to a waiter, then

you will need to excuse yourself and wash your hands before

continuing with your meal. The best way to handle a situation

when something has dropped on the floor is to ask a waiter for

a replacement; leave the old one on the floor.

M. You are to use your utensils for eating almost everything.

Here are ten types of food you may use your hands to eat:

1. Pizza

2. Bacon

3. Cookies

4. Bread (Always tear off a bite-sized piece to eat. If you

are going to use butter, never butter the whole piece of bread;

butter the piece you tore off, and eat that before tearing

another piece.)

5. Corn on the cob (It is appropriate to eat across instead

of eating around.)

6. Hot dogs, hamburgers, and sandwiches (including

breakfast biscuits)

7. French fries and chips

8. Fried chicken

9. Asparagus (yes, asparagus)

10. Small fruits (like grapes on a stem), apples, oranges,

carrots, etc.

N. Never reach over someone’s plate to get something. You

should say, “Will you please pass the salt?”

O. Never start eating off of your tray until you are at your seat.

P. When we are eating at a restaurant, you are not to begin

eating until everyone at the table has received food.

Q. You should never complain if the line is too long, the food isn’t

good, or if there is a wait. You don’t want to be negative to the

point where you spoil the enjoyment of the event for others.

R. If you are unsure which silverware to use, simply start with the

fork, knife or spoon that is the farthest from your plate. On the

left, you will have your salad fork on the outside and your

dinner fork on the inside. On the far right, you will have your

soupspoon. Beside it you will have the spoon you will use to

stir your coffee or tea, then your salad knife, and then your

dinner knife. The utensils above your plate are to be used for

dessert.

S. When you are finished eating, do not push your plate away

from you. Leave it where it is in the setting. If you want to

show you have finished eating, you should lay your fork and

knife together diagonally across the plate. You should place

the fork with the tines down, and you should have the sharp

side of the knife facing down. Of the two utensils, the fork

should be closest to you.

T. Never place a piece of silverware that you have used back on

the table. Leave it on a plate or saucer.

U. If you didn’t use a utensil, do not place it on a plate or saucer

when you are finished. Just leave it where it is.

V. Always look a waiter in the eyes when you are ordering,

asking a question, or saying thank you.

W. Make a point to remember the waiter’s name when he

introduces himself to you. Use his name as often as possible

throughout the course of the meal.

X. If you have to go to the rest room, you should stand up and

say, “Excuse me,” as you leave the table.

Y. When you are offered desserts or asked a question such as

“What sides would you like?” or “What dressing would you like

for your salad?” it is best to ask, “What are my options?” That

way, you aren’t going through a process of naming things the

restaurant might not have.

Z. Never talk to waiters or waitresses as if they are servants.

Treat them with respect and kindness, and remember, they

are the ones who are fixing food and bringing it to you. You do

not want to be on the bad side of a waiter.”

Rule 30

“After we eat, we will clean up after ourselves. This includes

cleaning off the tables and making sure we haven’t left any

trash on the floor or around the eating area. It is important to

be responsible for your trash no matter where you are and to

be sure not to litter.”

Rule 31

"When we stay in a hotel room, it is appropriate to leave a tip

on the pillow for the hotel workers who are responsible for

cleaning the room after our stay. Two to three dollars per night

is an appropriate amount, depending on the cost of the room."

Rule 32

“When we ride on a bus, we will always sit facing forward. We

will never turn around to talk to other students, stick anything

out of the windows, or get out of our seats. When we exit the

bus, we will always thank the bus driver and tell him to have a

good day.”

Rule 33

"When we go on field trips, we will meet different people.

When I introduce you to people, make sure that you

remember their names. Then, when we are leaving, make

sure to shake their hands and thank them, mentioning their

names as you do so."

Rule 34

"Whenever you are offered food, whether it be on a buffet or

treats in class, never take more than your fair share. You

never want to be greedy and try to get more than you should,

not only because it is wasteful, but also because it is

disrespectful to others when you do not leave enough for

them."

Rule 35

"Whether we are in school or on a field trip, if someone drops

something, pick it up and hand it back to them. Even if they

are closer to the object, it is only polite to make the gesture of

bending down to retrieve the item."

Rule 36

“If you approach a door and someone is following you, hold

the door. If the door opens by pulling, pull it open, stand to the

side, and allow the other person to pass through it first, then

you can walk through. If the door opens by pushing, hold the

door open after you push through."

Rule 37

"If we are on a field trip, it is a good idea to compliment

something about the place where you are visiting. For

example, if we visit someone's home, it would be a nice

gesture to tell them that you think they have nice curtains.

People are always self-conscious when they have guests visit

their home, so you want to make them feel at ease. Also, if we

are visiting other places, such as a museum or theater, it

would be nice to comment on how beautiful the architecture is

or to tell the guide that you think the facility is very nice."

Rule 38

"During an assembly do not speak and do not look around

and try to get the attention of your friends in other classes. We

must uphold an image that shows we have our act together."

Rule 39

“If we are on a field trip, it is a good idea to compliment

something about the place where we are visiting. For

example, if we visit someone’s home, it would be a nice

gesture to tell them that you think they have nice curtains.

People are always self-conscious when they have guests visit

their home, so you want to make them feel at ease. Also, if we

are visiting other places, such as a museum or theater, it

would be nice to comment on how beautiful the architecture is

or to tell the guide that you think the facility is very nice.”

Rule 40

“During an assembly, do not speak and DO NOT look around

and try to get the attention of your friends in other classes. We

must uphold an image that shows we have out act together!”

Rule 41

“When you answer the phone at your house, you must do so

in an appropriate manner.”

Rule 42

“When we return from a trip, you will shake my hand as well

as the hands of every chaperone. You will thank us for taking

the time to take you on the trip, and you will let us know that

you appreciate having the opportunity to go. I am not

concerned with being thanked; I am concerned with teaching

you that is it appropriate to show appreciation when someone

has gone out of his or her way to help you.

Rule 43

“When we are on field trips and we have to go up escalators,

we will stand to the right. That will give other individuals who

are in a hurry the option of walking up the left-hand side of the

escalator. When we are going to enter an elevator, the

subway, or a doorway, we will wait for others to exit before we

enter."

Rule 44

"When in a line; walk single file, two to three feet behind the

person in front of you with your arms at your sides. You

should face forward at all times. There will be absolutely no

talking."

Rule 45

“Never cut line. If someone cuts in front of you, do not say or

do anything about it. Let it happen, but let me know about it. I

will handle the situation. If you fuss with someone who has cut

in line, you could get in trouble as well. It’s not worth it; just let

me know what happened. Please handle all disputes with

other classmates in the same manner, by coming to me with

any problems before you take matters into your own hands."

Rule 46

“When we go to a movie theater

Rule 47

"Do not bring Doritos in the school building."

Rule 48

"If any child in this school is bothering you, let me know. I am

your teacher, and I am here to look after you and protect you.

I am not going to let anyone in this school bully you or make

you feel uncomfortable. In return, I ask that you not take

matters into your own hands; let me deal with the student."

Rule 49

"Stand up for what you believe in. You shouldn't take no for an

answer if your heart and mind are leading you in a direction

that you feel strongly about."

Rule 50

"Be positive and enjoy life. Some things just aren't worth

getting upset over. Keep everything in perspective and focus

on the good in your life."

Rule 51

"Live so that you will never have regrets. If there is something

you want to do, do it! Never let fear, doubt, or other obstacles

stand in your way. If there is something you want, fight for it

with all of your heart. If there is something you want to do, go

for it and don's stop until you make it happen. If there is

something you want to be, do whatever is necessary in order

to live that dream."

Rule 52

“Accept that you are going to make mistakes. Learn from

them and move on.”

Rule 53

“No matter what the circumstances, always be honest. Even if

you have done something wrong, it is best to admit it to me,

because I will respect that, and oftentimes I will forget any

disciplinary measures because of your honesty.”

Rule 54

“Carpe Diem. You only live today once, so don’t waste it. Life

is made up of special moments, many of which happen when

caution is thrown to the wind and people take action and seize

the day.”

Rule 55

“Be the best person you can be.”